November 5, 2025The Start Line
When the cannon fired on Staten Island, I felt calm. That surprised me. Coming back from serious injuries, the months of training, the self-doubt all melted into one thought: just run your race. Remember, average is good. Ahead of me I could see hundreds of runners shuffling through the start gantry, then breaking into a run onto the bridge. A beautiful autumn morning, skies perfectly blue, and the Verrazzano Bridge stretching over the horizon.
Then I was at the start line. Time to run. Run to my average is good plan.
I’d been thinking about this day for two years. The seed was planted in 2023, sitting in the grandstand at the finish line of the New York Marathon in Central Park, watching Tommy Rivs finish the same course. I’d had a major accident earlier that year and came back from it. Tommy had come back from an aggressive cancer, which saw him in a coma for 90 days. And here he was, showing us that the human spirit is indefatigable. Right there, right then, I thought ‘this race is for me.’ I went into a running store the next morning and bought my shoes. See this link to an Amber Sayer piece on Tommy’s story.
Readers of this blog know that fate struck another blow only five months later, with a second serious accident. But it never for a moment dimmed my ambition to run the New York Marathon. I was determined to show people just how average I can be. And I kept working and working at it. And here I was.
Straight into my groove, and starting the one mile ascent of the bridge, checking my pace and heart rate, and being sure not to get carried away by race day adrenaline. I looked to the left and there was an NYPD helicopter hovering, so close that I could see someone at the window waving to us runners. Behind him, the Manhattan skyline, perfect in the blue lagoon of morning sun.
The Goal
I chose 5 hours 45 minutes as a target time for my debut marathon in New York some months ago. My data trawling gave me this time as the average finish time for men in the 65-69 age group in major marathons. As a 195cm, 99kg, 68-year-old who had suffered two serious cycling accidents in the last two years, that seemed a challenge at the time. Average is good has been my mantra.
Because it’s not really average. 0.02% of men in the 65-69 year old age group run a marathon each year: roughly 1 in 5,000. Average is not mediocrity in this case. And add to it the challenges I overcame to get to the start line, it’s better than average.
I came into the year with a heavy dose of flu and didn’t start training seriously until February, but then went on to log 912kms of running in preparation. I also knocked out 150kms on the WattBike and did 38 strength sessions in the gym. You can see that I meant it. You need to work hard to be average.
Two weeks before the event someone challenged me on me selecting my average target race time. I stopped halfway through my explanation; they had no way of empathising with what I’d been through. And I was virtually twice their age, so they didn’t have the inside track on what it takes to get the job done as you age.
The Road To Average
I knew that I couldn’t just go out there and start randomly running. My age, not being a lightweight runner, and the cumulative effect of two serious accidents needed addressing head on. For example, three pelvic fractures had affected my left hip and running gait. No excuse, deal with it. My right knee had taken a huge impact on the road and even now doesn’t straighten properly. No excuse, get some muscle built around the knee.
I started running in May 2024. In a sling, as I had just had a titanium plate screwed to my collarbone. I was up and running, literally. Focused on general fitness for a few months, getting my strength back in the gym, and short, steady runs. I had some great friends patiently come out with me every second Saturday for a 5k run, and it gave me a focus.
In the autumn I signed up with the South African coach Lindsay Parry. He and his team specialise in over-50s runners, and I felt he could bring some structure to my training. Three things stood out in the work prescribed. Strength training was a huge factor, with two and sometimes three sessions a week scheduled. We lose muscle mass from our late 30s, and by my age it can be a problem. The other two factors were taking recovery very seriously, and working on mobility. I am more mobile than at any time in the last thirty years.
’You Do Realise …’
I slogged through the winter and into the spring of 2025 with my average is good mindset. Fitness crept up on me really. In the summer, a friend said to me, ‘You do realise you are casually knocking out half marathons now?’ And he was right. I’d gone from seeing 5km as a challenge, to hitting over 20kms regularly.
I need a scoreboard to convince me that I am making progress, it’s always been that way. My TrainingPeaks fitness tracking dashboard showed I was fitter than I had been for years. The Kubios heart rate variability score claimed I was half my biological age in cardiovascular fitness terms. My VO2 had moved into the excellent category for my age. All good.
Somewhere along the way, I had dropped 11kgs of weight, and thankfully I remained injury free. Project Average was in full flow. I realised that consistency and resilience were the key elements of my training. Not the flashy shoes or the Instagram post. But the grind.
Self doubt was a regular visitor to the space between my ears. I’m pretty certain I bored running companions to death by telling them I couldn’t get it done. It was hard to explain to people. I could never tell which body was going to show up to run. Some days, all good. Other days, I would get to 15kms and it felt like an accumulation of inflammation brought me to a stop. As though all my injuries were ganging up, possibly mocking me. If you struggle with 15kms, how are you going to handle almost three times the distance?
The Long Run
I pushed on. A couple of very good athletes—one who trained regularly with me, and one world-class athlete both said, “Trust the process.” So I did.
And so it was that average is good started to come alive in October, when it was time for my long run. It seems to be an almost religious experience in the marathon world to have a long run around three weeks before the marathon. I was very honoured when five good friends turned out to accompany me on laps of Hyde Park in London.
My pace was to be the target 7 minutes 50 seconds per kilometre, where I run for fifteen minutes and walk for one minute. That would bring me home in 5 hours 45 minutes in a marathon, if I could keep it up. Sadly for my partners, my pace was almost a brisk walk for some of them, and I appreciated their good humour.
To their credit, they patiently stayed with me for 3 hours 45 minutes of what I call ‘The Shuffle” and we clocked up 30kms. Half of me was delighted, and my inner voice was saying, “You’re cooked. How are you going to do another twelve kms on the day?”
Of course, I had to trust the process. The coaching team assured me that all was good. My training partners seemed to have confidence in me. As always, my inner voice was the doubter.
Long run day was the day I passed the 900km running mark for 2025. This average is good stuff takes a lot of work it seems. Even average isn’t free in this life.
It was almost time to find out.
Arrival In The Big Apple
We arrived in New York five days before the event. I was nervous, as I had spent a couple of weeks battling a respiratory tract infection, which resulted in me being on antibiotics until the day before we flew. The long run had clearly pushed my immune system hard. But thankfully, even though my heart rate showed I was still under the weather, my shakeout runs were good. I just needed Sunday to come around.
The marathon transforms the city. The city that never sleeps, the city that has seen it all, transforms. Strangers in running shoes share nods of recognition. Running pop-ups appear in coffee shops. Hotel lobbies buzz with nervous laughter, and languages from around the world. A lot of people walking around in very expensive trainers.
Thursday morning, it was expo time and I picked up my race bib. I also bought an official finisher’s jacket. Was I tempting fate? Was I being arrogant? That brought my self doubt back. I started to explain to myself that I could sell it on eBay if I didn’t finish. But a day later I realised the jacket was a signal of my intention.
Two days out, I started to carb load and heavily hydrate. One day out, I sorted my kit. ASICS Kayano shoes, the orange ones with 247kms on them. Seven Science in Sport Beta Fuel gels and six sticks of Beta Fuel chews. Shorts, liners, shirt, socks, cap, race number, magnets, gel belt, nipple tape, Bodyglide, cap, glasses, heart rate strap, watch. Foil blanket for the wait in the village, wet wipes, Puresport electrolyte powder. I had every detail nailed on. Prepared.
The work had been done. The kit sorted. The pacing and fuelling plan precise. Could I dare to be average? Bring it on.
Race Day
I slept well. A good sign. 5:45 and I was up and showered. Bagel, peanut butter and honey, banana, 750ml of water with electrolyte powder. Feeling calm. I stuffed my race fuel and a second bagel into my start village bag and took an Uber to Staten Island Ferry Terminal.
Buzzing. Hundreds of runners, good natured, nervous, doing a collective shuffle towards the ferry, the captain of the boat pumping the ship’s horn and exhorting the crowd to get pumped up. They didn’t need it, but it was fun.
A thirty minute trip to Staten Island, the Statue Of Liberty to the right, another ferry boat wrapped in vibrant pink, Nike swoosh and ‘New York Doesn’t Carry You. It Pushes You,’ in huge font down the side.
We were processed onto buses for the journey to the start village. 50,000 people shuttled from ferry to start village over four hours. Epic logistics. People on the bus were quiet, lost in thought. Each of us carrying a private story. Each of us pondering the challenge ahead.
In the village, I found a piece of cardboard and laid down near a fence, hoodie rolled up as a pillow. Still calm. I’d been calm all day. I believed in my plan. I’d followed the process, done all I could do. Time to show that average is good.
Five Boroughs
I was clear in my mind as I crossed the first bridge. Run fifteen minutes, walk one. Aim for 7:45 to 8:15 per kilometre. Gel after 25 minutes. Then alternate chew, gel, chew, gel every 25 minutes. Drink at every single hydration stop on the course. Don’t get carried away. Don’t let adrenaline undermine the plan. “Average is good” in my mind.
Soon I was on the downward mile of the Verrazano Bridge, first walk break behind me, and arriving in Brooklyn.
Now the true character of the New York Marathon started to show itself. The road was packed on both sides with supporters exhorting the runners to get the job done. Holding placards, or in fancy dress, or holding out food and drink for runners. I had heard about it, but that didn’t come close to preparing me. And the further we went, the wilder it got.
My left foot was hurting in random places and I wondered if it was going to become a problem. Then my left hip flexor began to get sore at around 12kms, and started to get worse. “Uh-oh.” But I wasn’t going to stop, and just blocked it from my mind.
Keep a steady pace. Fuel on time. Hydrate every mile. Left foot. Right foot. Left foot. Right foot.
Into Madness
The crowds became more and more dense. One feature of this course is rolling hills, steep bridges, and very long straights. You can look up the avenues in Brooklyn or Manhattan and see thousands of runners and crowds all the way to the vanishing point on the horizon.
At the 8 mile mark, my wife Mish, I ran over and gave her a kiss, carried on. On the other side of the road was film director Spike Lee sitting on a step ladder, taking in the proceedings.
Every time I thought the atmosphere couldn’t get anymore intense, it did. Somewhere in Brooklyn the crowds had pushed through the police barriers and we were running down a narrow tunnel through a gauntlet of fans screaming and shouting. You see it in the Tour de France every year, now here was the running version. Live rock bands played on the sidewalks every so often, and I joined in with Sweet Home Alabama, the drummer saluting me with his sticks. Seriously loud mayhem. What a beautiful experience, the privilege of running this race in this environment, two million fans on the streets of New York.
Williamsburg saw me enter into a surreal sketch. Suddenly Hasidic Jews were darting across the course in front of the runners. To be precise, the younger men darted. The older ones took a leisurely, somewhat defiant stroll across. I looked down at my watch and suddenly felt contact, as I hit a pram. A whole family crossing the road. To be fair, it was on a crossing, but the closed roads memo had gone missing. I survived, they survived, and thankfully I was soon approaching Queens.
Halfway now. Starting to get serious.
The Pain Begins
It’s only a short route through Queens, and then onto the Queensboro Bridge at mile fourteen. It’s eerily quiet here, no spectators and only the sound of running shoes hitting the road. Off to the side a female runner stoops, vomiting. A male runner trying to stretch a hamstring, face contorted with pain. Similar scenes across the bridge, something of a war zone.
I’m fortunate, my various aches and pains have morphed into a single wave of acute discomfort. I can deal with this. It’s the mental game now, grinding it out. The Queensboro is almost all uphill. But as you reach the end and see the road sharply dip, a hum appears. And it becomes a roar. Louder, then louder. Seconds later, First Avenue in Manhattan and the crowd noise goes up another few notches. Mile 16.
It’s mentally tough here. First Avenue stretches on and on and on, to the painful horizon and further. A rolling straight line all the way to mile 20 in The Bronx. Focus on pace. Hydrate. Gel. Every so often a runner weaves and bumps into me. People are tiring now. The road around the hydration stations thick with discarded cardboard cups. Left foot. Right foot.
It’s not long before I reach the 30km mark. Every step from this point is new territory for me. Time to answer the big question. Do I have it in me to do another 12kms?
The Wall
I take a left and cross the final bridge of the race, this taking me into Harlem. I pass an old woman on the course, stooped and gamely pushing on. Her vest announces it’s her 43rd New York Marathon. Respect.
Then another left and it’s Fifth Avenue, heading south for Central Park. Mile 21. This is where people break; I’ve heard all the tales. The Wall is here. Keep going. Left foot. Right Foot. I pass a band playing Roy Ayers’ Everybody Loves The Sunshine, and it was just what I needed—I gave the band a fist pump, and got one back.
The hard yards. This is where all the training paid off, and when I looked at my race metrics after, I could see it. To the 17 mile mark my pace was between 4.6mph and 4.7mph for all miles except for two; in those I ran at 4.8mph to make up for time lost at a the Portaloos. From mile 17 to the finish, every single mile was run at 4.6mph. I had turned into a human metronome. 900kms of consistent training paid off there and then, when it really counted.
Central Park
Mile 23 saw me parallel with the park. I knew the end was getting closer. I must have been struggling now, as more and more spectators started to urge me on. My name is Stephen, pronounced ‘Stee-vuhn’. I realised the shouts of Stefan, pronounced ‘STEH-fan’ for 23 miles had been for me. A TransAtlantic phonetic quirk. I pushed on.
I can’t say I was feeling physical pain, but it felt hard now. Mentally hard, just keeping forward momentum. I was aware I was starting to grimace and I started to swear at myself. I dipped fully into Central Park at mile 24. Only two miles. ‘Only’ became a big word, I turned it over in my mind.
Shortly after mile 25, we took a right, I could see the lights of the finish line somewhere up a hill to the right. Runners were dropping around me, some like they had been shot. A large percentage of people were walking now. Not me. I was going to run a marathon, and I could see my finish target was on.
An odd quirk of the event taunted me. I had already completed the marathon according to my Garmin. Yes, I had. The weaving around other runners and drifting off to hydration stations, and not hugging the centre line had cost me another 0.7kms on my feet.
A final turn. A sign 800m. Cruelly uphill now. Left foot. Right foot. Double intensity grimace. Swear at myself.
The Finish
I pushed as hard as I could up the final slope to the finish line. Again, I heard Mish shout to me—she had migrated from Brooklyn to the finish area—I waved, but was in my own personal hell by then. See the photo. But a hell that was resolutely doing 4.6mph, even though I felt I was swimming through treacle.
There it was, the line. I heard the commentator call my name out, and punched the air repeatedly. Then stopped my Garmin; I was inside my target time, for sure.
It’s hard to say what I felt. It wasn’t euphoria, there wasn’t any big rush of emotion. I want to say the feeling was ‘job done’. I had put the work in and trusted the process. Beat my target time and delivered mile after mile at a stunningly consistent pace. I didn’t hit the wall. I didn’t for a second entertain the thought I wouldn’t make it round the course. And now, I was a marathoner. For my age group, not one of the fabled 1%, but one of the more rarified 0.02%.
I was in a sea of humanity and remember a medal being offered to me, then a recovery bag. Then we drifted right and picked up a huge, orange, hooded poncho. In front of me, an endless wave of orange-enveloped runners. I noted we were tending to rock from side to side, walking like penguins, as the post-run pain kicked in. A sign told us we needed to walk to 77th Street, a good ten blocks away, to exit. “You’ve got to be shitting me,” the guy next to me said, and we both laughed.
I walked to 77th, then all the way back to 64th Street to meet Mish. It took an age, I shuffled like a geriatric. Around me, people were going down with cramp. And in some cases, emotion.
Job done.
Average Is Good
A look at the numbers showed I had delivered the brief. 5 hours 38 minutes and 51 seconds. Age adjusted time of 4 hours 13 minutes and 42 seconds. And—trumpet blast—a percentage age-graded score of 48.49%. I’d run an average marathon time for my age group. Average never felt better. I’d been on a two year journey through two serious accidents and a major life transition, taken up a new sport, and delivered in one its major global events.
I’d spent a lifetime striving, trying to be better, pushing myself to be an overachiever. There’s a light and a dark side to that, and the dark side of mental health challenges had been a load to bear, for me and those around me. New York taught me that excellence is overrated when it robs you of joy.
48.46% means consistency, resilience, and restraint. Average is good. Average is extraordinary from my perspective. I look down at the ink on my left shin. Nanakorobi yaoki in Japanese kanji. Seven times fall, eight times rise. I certainly did.
Average isn’t the absence of ambition, it’s the presence of wisdom. 48.46% isn’t mediocrity, it’s a sign of balance. By aiming for average, I preserved the one thing that counts: enjoying the process, not beating myself up chasing an impossible goal. I didn’t settle for second best, I set out to run the long game—in training, in health, in life.
Somewhere out on the 26.2 miles I realised that there’s a freedom in ageing; I was no longer performing for approval. I was doing it for me. The 26.2 taught me that structure and compassion can coexist; I had ground out huge training volume and left it all out on the course too, but I was also kind to myself. I told myself I had earned this. New York didn’t make me younger; it made me more alive. It reminded me that consistency beats intensity every time.
Average is good. Very good.
Talking With Tommy
The next morning I looked for Tommy Rivs online, and dropped him a line on Instagram and told him my story. Told him I’d run 900kms wearing a pendant engraved with one of his mottos—‘Gently Rage’. I was surprised to get an almost instant response and we traded back and forth for a while. He said he hoped to share some miles with me one day. That will happen, count on it. We are all at the mercy of life, we don’t fully control events. I’ve found that, Tommy found that. The big test of life is how you react when life lays the gauntlet at your feet.
Messages poured in from friends and colleagues and even strangers. Many said my story inspired them, and that’s humbling to hear. I didn’t run fast, but I ran with persistence and purpose, and that resonated with people.
My body is coming around. A toenail has gone missing. I don’t have any injuries. There has been no euphoria, and no emotional slump either. I’ve walked around New York and talked to athletes still proudly wearing their medals. Everyone has a story, and every story is interesting. I’ve replayed some fond memories in my head from the race: being handed Haribo at the exact second I needed the hit, watching a Hasidic Jew spinning like a top through the traffic in front of me, the Roy Ayers band at mile 21 all saluting me.
And, yes. I am doing another marathon. There is no doubt at all. Will it be hard work, will it test me, will it take scores of hours? Yes to all of those. Hundreds more kilometres—slower, wiser, deeper in meaning. Average isn’t a ceiling, it’s a foundation strong enough to build a long, health life upon.
Average is good. See you on a startline somewhere in the world. [...]